But...what's next?
Sometimes friendships need a little nudge. When I was 9, my parents thought it would be a good idea for me to read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People". My dad was in sales and Dale was quoted more often than Jesus in our house. In hindsight, this probably wasn't the best book to introduce me to as a child, since one of the main ideas was "how to win people to your way of thinking" which may or may not have lead to me convincing a group of friends to steal a car just four short years later--but that's another story.
Anyway, whether good old Dale contributed to my juvenile delinquence or not, life has taught me one thing: everyone likes to talk about themselves. What a better way to get to know your new friends than by asking them some questions about themselves?
Here are a few you might like to ask/answer:
- Where are you from?
- Do you have any pets?
- What kind of music do you like?
- m&m's, red or blue? Discuss.
- What are some of your hobbies?
- Reading: Kindle or paperback?
- Jeans or a skirt? (We all know the answer to that one, right?? PANTS! ;)
- Do you enjoy traveling by train, plane or automobile?
- Would you rather have a night out or a night in?
- Candle salad or Hymas haystacks?
- James Spader or Andrew McCarthy? (I know I'm showing my age here, if you haven't seen Pretty In Pink --leave your computer and go watch it. NOW.)
- Swim in a pool or the ocean?
- What is your favorite pair of shoes?
- What is your ideal visiting teaching moment look like?
- In what ways can I support you?
- Has Lisa asked you to steal a car with her yet?
What questions would you add?
(And I know you're reading because Jerilyn came to me in a dream (bearing a candle salad) telling me that this blog has had thousands of page views, so don't forget to leave a comment about which questions you would ask to get to know someone better--your question may be the one that inspires a conversation!)
I just don't know why we have to color profile m&ms. Look not upon the outer shell. Inside they offer the same sweet goodness and deserve to be universally loved and enjoyed as equals.
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Amen, Sister Leah, Amen.
Delete....random thought...I loves me some Andrew Mccarthy. I wanted to name my last child after him. Unfortunately my last child was a girl.
DeleteAndi. There. Go change her name.
DeleteCandle salad of course, why is this even a question?
ReplyDeleteI have no idea. It really shouldn't be.
DeleteM&M color matters not. The real question is: Peanut, plain, or peanut butter?
ReplyDeletePB OBVIOUSLY COME ON.
Nope, I have to disagree. The answer is Peanut. *shakes head*
DeleteI hate to say it...but I agree with Jen, peanut is superior. Although, I will admit I may be saying this because when I buy the pb m&m's my kids eat all of them and I don't get ANY. I may be angry about this and in a passive agressive way "forget" to buy them pb m&m's...:)
DeleteAm I the only person who has no idea what a candle salad is?
ReplyDeleteAre you in the fMh fb group? There have been exhausted discussion about this topic which are hilarious AND frightening. Also, you can see a picture of a candle salad in our previous blog post. Jerilyn is holding on in the middle pic...
DeleteOh, and if you're not in the fb group, come join us!!!
DeleteI re-watched Pretty in Pink the other day and decided that Blaine is actually kind of a jerk. Of course I was anti-Steph back in the day, but if Andie were my daughter I'd tell her to ditch Blaine, too. Duckie will come out in a couple of years and be her BFF for life, but go to college and find someone who has a backbone when it comes to following the crowd.
ReplyDeleteYou're totally right, Kari. Totally. Blaine was a jerk!
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